有时候你只须是想一试，大家都可以做到甘地和德兰修女那种地步。记者将这十种方法对你说，相信只须你在日常合理运用，必然会有所得。
1.话要想着说
Think before you speak
在开口说话前，确信你所说的话适合到足以禁得起放到社会媒体上检验的地步。说出的话如果过一会儿就后悔，那最好还是别说。
Before you open your mouth to say something, make sure it's something you would be proud to post everywhere on social media. If it's something you might regret later, then maybe it's better if you kept it to yourself.
2.了解根本就没一个“对的时间”
Realize there is never a "right time"
“等我找到一份更好的工作的时候”，“等我毕业后”，“等到孩子长大的时候”。没哪一刻能比目前更好。向你的目的迈出第一步，等待只能叫你的年龄增加，不会叫你变得更聪明。
"When I get a better job," or, "When I graduate," or, "When the kids are grown." There is no time like the present. Take that first step toward your goal. Waiting will only make you older, not wiser.
3.处置好个人利益和集体利益的关系
Balance self-interest with the collective good
在社会日常，必然要处置好“个人”和“别人”的关系。是的，你应该顾及到我们的需要，但你也应该考虑到别人的需要。只须足够用心，在这两者之间你是可以找到一个平衡点的。
In relationships, there should be a balance between "self" and "other." Yes, you should care about your own needs. But you should also care about other people's needs too. It's a balancing act that can be achieved if you try hard enough.
4.正确看待一件事之前，不要妄下结论
Put things in perspective before you jump to conclusions
当你和其他人闹了矛盾，不淡定是非常正常的，但不淡定时最易出问题。所以还是花点时间来平复自己，纵览事情的总体状况，在你能正常考虑时在回顾这个事件而不是回想你的假设。
While it's natural to do that, problems can occur when you engage in conflict with another person before you calm down. So take some time to calm down, put everything into perspective, and then review the facts not assumptions when you can think more logically.
5.不要盲目同意近况
Don't blindly accept the status quo
每一个人都在做的事并不意味着你需要要做。问问你一个人是不是真的想如此做——如此是否一种明智的做法。一般答案都是相反的。
Just because everyone does something doesn't mean you have to. Ask yourself if you truly want to do it – or even if it's advisable to do so. Many times it's not.
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6.不要让其他人的消极情绪影响到你
Don't let other people's negativity upset you
大部分人都会被别人的消极情绪所影响。最后，消极的情绪就会渗透到生活的每个方面，最后致使一个悲剧。控制好自己，不要让别人的事情影响到你的快乐。
Wise people realize that they are always in control of their thoughts, feelings, and actions. Most people let others' behavior affect them negatively. As a result, they let that negativity permeate their lives and make them miserable. Own your power and keep your happiness by not allowing them to change you for the worse.
7.行为不冲动
Don't act impulsively
日常，冲动就是容易叫人后悔。你没花时间思量一下整件事情，是比较容易出问题的。明智的人都会在潜意识里做出可以让事情朝着最好的方向进步的决定。
In life, acting on impulse can lead to regrets. If you don't take the time to think things through, you might create problems. Wise people use a combination of their logic and intuition to come up with the best decisions possible.
8.同意本来的那个他
Accept other people for who they are
面对吧，大多数人都试着改变别人。事实上，这是没意义的。大家本来就是那样的。如果你不喜欢，你可以选择结束关系，或者尽量少和他相处，或者就只有改变你一个人的态度。同意本来的那个他，你也期望其他人能同意本来的那个你吧?
Let's face it, most people try to change others. It's really pointless. But it doesn't work! People are who they are. If you don't like them, then you have the choice to leave the relationship, spend less time with them, or change your attitude. Accept who they are. You want to be accepted for who you are, right?
9.封面非常漂亮，但书未必
The cover may be pretty, but the book might not be
智者不会被一个人表面上的魔力、个性和漂亮的外表所蒙蔽。同样的，即使是一个长得不漂亮，没魔力又没个性，给你第一印象就不好的人，智者也不会拒绝。换句话说就是他们会花时间去知道、去评判最真实的那个人，而不是只看到表面。
Wise people don't get blinded by charm, personality, or looks right away. Conversely, they are also not turned off by anyone who is not beautiful or charming on first impression, either. In other words, they take the time to get to know people and judge them on their inner self, not who they appear to be.
10.不要去评辨别人
Don't judge others
除去以上的那些，真的的智者是不会评价其他人的。他们会试着去领会其他人的感受——站在其他人的角度看待这件事，针对同样的事情看看自己会怎么样处置。像智者一样好像非常困难，但你仅需练习你的思维方法，控制好你的情绪。
Above all else, truly wise people don't judge. They practice empathy. Empathy is truly putting yourself in another person's shoes and trying to see the situation from their point of view. However, all you need to do is train your mind and control your emotions.
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